The Body Never Lies by Alice Miller

Author:Alice Miller [Miller, Alice]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
Published: 2005-09-14T17:00:00+00:00

This sounded very encouraging, so it came as no surprise to me, one year later, when Elizabeth wrote once again to tell me the following:

I have not had any more therapy, and I’m doing fine. I haven’t seen my mother once this year, and I do not feel the need to do so. The memories of her cruelty to me when I was small are so vivid that they protect me from any illusions I might have and also from expectations that she might have something to give me that I missed out on so much as a child. Even though I still miss it from time to time, I now know exactly where there is absolutely no point in looking for it. In contrast to what my therapist prophesied, I feel no hatred in me. I do not need to hate my mother because I am no longer emotionally dependent on her.

My therapist failed to understand that. She wanted to free me of my hatred and did not realize that she was unintentionally thrusting me into that hate, which was an expression of my dependency, a dependency she would have created all over again. If I had followed my therapist’s advice, that hatred would have reared its head once more. Today, I no longer need to suffer from pretending that I have feelings for my mother. I don’t. That is why there is no hatred left inside me. It was always the hatred of a dependent child, and I would have perpetuated it with my therapist if I had not left her in time.

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